Vaikka he vaikuttavat vahvoilta, niin juuri riittämättömyydentunne, heikko itsetunto tai pelko saattaa ajaa heidät tilaanteeseen, jossa he kuvittelevat, että heidän pitää pitää kaikki ohjat omissa käsissään. Tiedän mistä puhun.
"Years ago, a wise woman told me this, and I've never forgotten it.
Don't get too proud, she said, of your capabilities at handling anything — or soon people will expect you to handle everything.
The world is always eager to find someone who can handle everything (because the world is lazy, and doesn't want to do the work) and soon you will be responsible for more than you can manage. You will be doing more than what is fair, or even sensible — and you will be doing thousands of things that you were never designed to do.
Don't get seduced by the idea that you are some kind of Superwoman — as much as the world wants to put that honorific upon you. (Telling women that they are superheroes is a trick the world has always played, for making women do all the work.) Trying to be Superwoman is not worth the toll that it will take on your life, or on your energies, or on your relationships. You will end up doing everything, yes — but you will do none of it well, and you will do much of it with resentment, and you will end up feeling burned-out and used, and living a life that has lost its direction and its passion.
Learn what really matters to you, this woman taught me and do only THAT."
Learn to say no. And let the rest of it go.